Motorola E815 / E816 Hollywood

I've got the E815 and have lots of ringtones I have created that I want to be able to try and" Bluetooth" over to my brothers phone while he's right there (instead of texting/emailing etc.). He has a Nokia phone with T-Mobile service and mine is with Verizon. He said we should be able to, yet it seems like my phone won't accept anything coming to it via Bluetooth. I have the Bluetooth funtion turned on and have it set to search for other "devices", yet it doesnt pick up ("locate") his phone. His will "locate" mine, but when he tries to Bluetooth (send) something, he gets a message on his phone saying "not accepted"), or something like that. I do not have a Bluetooth headset and normally have no reason to use the Bluetooth function.
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